Boys!
I'm trying not to crush, I really am. But after being in two long-term relationships in a row, my relationship parameters are a little screwy when it comes to dating. I've always been the type to throw myself in with whoever I find attractive ... you like me, I like you, let's date! But this isn't high school, and I keep telling myself I don't want to get into anything anyway. Not that I listen to myself, obviously, which is why I'm having issues. After having been known as half of a pair for nearly eight years, I find it's harder to be alone than I thought. At the same time, I'm really enjoying getting to live life as I want to, making friends and doing things as just me. (As much as I can given the living situation, anyway.) The ambivalence really gets old after a while. It doesn't help that most people I meet, young or old, are involved in relationships. It's as if I'm one step behind everyone else, and if only I could have gotten myself on track sooner. ... But who says I was ever off-track to begin with? Sigh. I keep telling myself there's so much I want to do, so many places I want to go, that being single is better for my life, anyway. I think I already said something to that effect. Sorry, I know I'm rambling. The clearer story is that I've met this guy who is great to hang out with, someone I feel comfortable with - I can be myself around him, there's no weirdness or anxiety - we just seemed to click, instant friendship. So why am I over-analyzing? Have I really gotten to the point where I'm so unsure of myself around guys that I can't be content with a normal friendship? Is it to the point where any commonality I find is automatically turned into something more? Am I over-analyzing because there's really something that attracts me to this person, or because I think there should be? How completely pathetic do I sound? :D And of course, what's really complicating this whole mess for me is not the how-do-I-relate-to-guys issue, because if it was just that I'd probably blurt it out and get it over with. No, it's the everyone-I-meet-has-a-partner issue. So last night I found myself hoping that things wouldn't work out (it is a long-distance relationship, after all) and he & his girlfriend would break up. And then of course I felt awful for hoping that. I've never met this girl and from what I've heard I think I'd like her. Still, I can't get this guy out of my head.
And that's all I have to say about that. Oh! Except that we were talking about the issue of wearing a pentacle under or over one's shirt and I told him I solved that problem (sort of) by getting a tattoo. He asked where, and I showed him, and he said "Oh! That's almost exactly like the one from Supernatural!" So really, should I be surprised I'm crushing?
